If you want your spouse or partner to adopt your biological child as a step-parent (if you are legally married) or co-parent (if you have not entered into marriage or civil union), you must be a resident of the State of Connecticut in order for this State’s Probate Courts to have jurisdiction over the adoption. I have received calls from numerous same-sex couples who mistakenly believe that because they arranged to give birth to their child in Connecticut but do NOT reside here, they are able to ask Connecticut to grant their adoption petition.
To establish residency in Connecticut, you must live in this state. It is not enough to obtain a post office box — you must actually have a physical street address. As further proof that you have become a Connecticut resident, you should obtain a driver’s license (or State I.D. if you do not drive), register your motor vehicles here, pay state and local taxes in Connecticut, and register to vote here (be aware that you cannot be a resident of two states for voting purposes).
Some couples move to Connecticut prior to the birth of their child. For those couples who choose to relocate here after their child is born, you should select a pediatrician in Connecticut. If the child is already of school age, register him or her in the appropriate school system right away.
Remember, you MUST be a resident of Connecticut in order to petition our State’s courts to grant your step-parent or co-parent adoption.